I can change - for you

I'll get right if you want it
Go to church
Get baptized if you want it
Girl you opened my eyes and I'm gonna
Be much better for you

Baby believe me
Baby believe me

I can change (you know I can change baby)
I can change (know I can change baby)
I can change
For you
I can change
I can change
I can change
For you

(the great John Legend)


Haha, funny thing happen today, was meandering up some road in south with my shopping, minding my business and enjoying the sun when this guy pops up out of nowhere. Nice looking guy, dont get me wrong. Then he starts with the lyrics.....the usual, so pretty, made my day etc etc..........

The he says so tell me about yourself. So I tell him I'm a Christian. The point isn't acknowledged in any way and he goes on asking other questions about what I'm doing, where I live, who I live with etc etc. Then eventually he gets to

"Yeah so, I was thinking if you're not busy I can take you out tonight innit, go see a movie or something and get to know you better" and asks for my number.

By this time the dude had walked with me quite a way down the road in the opposite direction to where he was going and had been really polite and not thuggish or anything at all so I felt a bit bad saying, nope, sorry, not gonna happen. I explain how I'm really only interested in getting to know Christian guys that way.

Then the guy gets creative.

"Yeah you know I've been wanting to get to know more about being a Christian you know, maybe you will be a good influence and can encourage me."

I say, you never said anything about this before when I told you I was a Christian.

And he's like, "Yeah my mum's a Christian and she wants me to change, so I go to church innit. I mean, you know, like I wanna change gradually though innit so I'm just seeing...so, is it ok now?"

Me: "No, I dont think so I'm sorry, like I said I'm only interested in getting to know Christian guys."

Him: "I'll be straight yeah - I'm a Muslim. See I didn't have to tell you that, did I?"

Me: "Oh, so you're a muslim? Sorry, no."

Him: "But I'm open cos of my mum and I will change eventually, you know, just gradually, but I don't wanna change all the way though you know. Cos I'm a Muslim. But you could help me though innit? So can I take your number then?"

Me: "No, sorry......"

Why do guys try this kind of scenario? :-) I mean really, it's funny though. Once upon a time, back in the day when I was very young and very naive, I might have thought "Oh no, but I should exchange numbers with him so we can talk about Christ - I'm supposed to be a fisher of men!"

But time and experience taught me that more often than not, a guy chirpsing situation is hardly ever fruitful. Not ONE convert have I made in that kind of scenario, and if anything they probably had a worse influence on ME!

I even had a situation where someone I was in a relationship with claimed he was wanted to give his life to the Lord, and claimed to have done so - and then had an apparent change of heart when he realised that him being saved was not going to result in us being together again. He was angry. I was shocked.

Sort of.

I mean, I remember at the time him suggesting that we get together for bible studies and to go to church when I did not feel comfortable doing so or being his personal tutor because I knew him well, although he claimed it really was just because he wanted to learn about Christianity and that we could learn together.

I'm not saying that successful teaching and conversion doesn't come out of these situations, because I know it can, but sometimes I wonder in situations where an unsaved member of the opposite sex approaches or befriends you because they're attracted to you, are we obligated to invest time in them to hopefully share the message and bring them to the knowledge of Christ? I feel we should, but in reality these things can sometimes prove to be unfruitful or messy.......:-/